Category Archives: home education

the garden grows!

Here is our progress and Jonny’s science work samples, nice how that works out :)

we have corn . . .

we have corn . . .


. . . watermelon, snap peas, broccoli . . .

. . . watermelon, snap peas, broccoli . . .


. . . lettuce, beans, the lone surviving cucumber plant, onion . . .

. . . lettuce, beans, the lone surviving cucumber plant, onion . . .


. . . a sunflower . . .

. . . a sunflower . . .


. . . basil, cilantro, mint, eggplant . . .

. . . basil, cilantro, mint, eggplant . . .


. . . tomatoes, peppers, squash . . .

. . . tomatoes, peppers, squash . . .


. . . sprouting artichoke, zinnia, lavender, morning glory, agastache, calendula, larkspur, and hoping for sweet williams more mint, and heliochrysum.

. . . sprouting artichoke, zinnia, lavender, morning glory, agastache, calendula, larkspur, and hoping for sweet williams more mint, and heliochrysum.

And that’s where we’re at with that.

Interest-driven education?

Even after having this blog for over a year and a half, I still don’t know what the heck I’m doing with it. Is it a parenting blog? A homeschooling blog? A nature blog? A family diary for future generations of Stankovitses? It seems to be not a very good blog of any particular sort and I’ve often thought about doing away with it altogether. But it isn’t hurting me or bugging me so it has abided.

I have enjoyed getting my thoughts on homeschooling out here periodically so this next piece of writing is me trying to formulate my current views/plans for the next school year.

I have always been drawn to the idea of unschooling, that the parent/child learning team forego conventional ideas of “school” and even “education” altogether in favor of life learning, or maybe just life living! In my mind there’s a tree with the interests and passions as the trunk, which lead into the conventional reading, writing, arithmetic lessons in the branches and leaves, off-shoots of the good stuff, becoming super important as they (gather sunlight) facilitate and nourish the learning of the trunk subjects. But I always thought that holding to an educational philosophy such as unschooling meant that you must abandon structure, discipline and organization. I’ve looked for information to disprove my objections, since the learning tree lures me so. John Holt’s and David Albert’s writings have now carried me to a place where my objections are no longer of concern. It seems that structure and discipline, in the form of the parents’ continued attention to the child and diligence in seeking out more and more materials, resources and information, and definitely organization to boot, are the roots of the tree. I believe that the child will establish discipline on their own, too, though I’m not prepared to write about that.

Here is a quote from John Holt, taken from his book Learning All the Time.
“We can best help children learn, not by deciding what we think they should learn and thinking of ingenious ways to teach it to them, but by making accessible to them, paying serious attention to what they do, answering their questions – if they have any – and helping them explore the things they are most interested in.” I have come to agree with that, by watching Jonny’s experience with school. He absorbs math fast, but hates the amount of busy work the curriculum requests. Even after I tailor it down significantly, it exasperates any interest he came to the concept with. How awful is that? Here’s a kid that can barely sit still for any amount of time, he’s good at math, interested in numbers and time, but the work I give him involving these very subjects, repels him from them! That is the opposite of what I hope education is and will be in this house.

So, my way of getting started on unschooling is to observe Jonny and decipher what it is that he is passionate about. The kid loves and I mean LOVES the video game Call of Duty. I should mention that I was so very opposed, at first, but couldn’t take it away because Jonny and Sid had such great times together, bonding over it. Jonny is really, really good at it too. When he plays live with other players, his team mates and opponents think he must be Sid because he’s so good! He loves the guns, loves the fighting and is 100% aware that it is just a game. In fact, when I get bothered by the violence, he reminds me, “Mom, it’s just a game.” He knows he doesn’t want to be in a real war. So, what can I extract and elaborate on so that Call of Duty can serve as a gateway to knowledge for Jonny? Well, on our Netflix xBox instant queue we got a show from the Military Channel called Future Weapons, hosted by an ex-Navy Seal. Sid and I love that show! So we watch it together with Jonny. During last night’s viewing, Jonny was suddenly overcome by the best idea ever! A Nerf tank!! And a Nerf missile launcher! Then I followed with adding a Nerf Cornershot to the idea list after the weapon and it’s Israeli creator were featured on the show. So Sid is going to draw up the ideas, at Jonny’s direction, and we’ll send them to Nerf. We’ve also checked out various books about military weapons from the library. Super cool. I love that I get to learn about this stuff too!

Thus begins our journey into the gloriously colorful, sparkling and unpredictable, yet satisfying, world of unschooling, for lack of a better term, or maybe my title here is a better term, interest-driven education? (I bet if I google it, it already exists and has an excessively detailed description which I am not prepared to advocate!) We will not abandon math lessons, next year we’ll try out the Math on the Level curriculum. Also, we’ll continue to be loosely guided by curriculum for the other core subjects, but with flexibility. And that’s where we’re at with that.

Good Friday

Around here, church hasn’t worked out for some time. It has been our choice to stay home, since worshipping and learning about God with our children by our side is our preference.

Having the church as my second home as a child and while growing up, I very much miss the Holiday services, but none more than the Good Friday services (though Christmas Eve Service is a close second). Good Friday was when I felt God’s love so tangibly. So tonight, on Good Friday evening, we did our own service, and we were fortunate to have three special guests, Elliana, Sophia and Helena Hahn.

I LOVE the "feel" of these felt board images.

Miss Aveline had the sweetest moment, I was reading the story from the Betty Lukens book, and I came to this part:

“But He chose to die. Why would Jesus choose to do this? Because He loved us. He was the only person who could carry out God’s plan and die for our sins. He was the only sinless one to make it possible for us to have eternal life in heaven.”

At this point Aveline interrupted and said something to the effect of, “I can’t believe it, this story is talking about us! How can that be?” I thought that maybe I recognized that feeling she had, as the very same feeling I always had at Good Friday Services. So, after the cousins answered her so sweetly and relevantly, I put my hand around her arm and told her that what she just felt, when she realized the story is about her, was God’s love for her that He was sending to her.

It is my belief that children and spirituality are a delicate combo. I have witnessed Aveline have these experiences of God (such as when she asked Jesus into her heart, that story’s for another day!) and it is my greatest hope that she doesn’t forget, and that I don’t ruin them by adding something that will somehow negate the value of what she just experienced! I told her to hold onto that feeling of God’s love for her, to lock it in her jail-heart (read about the jail-heart here).

So tonight it is my prayer that Aveline stays open to perceiving God’s love for her, that she learns to feel it in each moment, as she draws her attention to it. And I extend that prayer now, for all who read this (as well as those who don’t, but having drawn your attention to my prayer makes you much more likely to be blessed by it!).

building

One of the reasons I love home education so much, is that it opens Jonny’s schedule for valuable and fun experiences such as . . .

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and . . .

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Helping Sid and our friend Tom (in the pic) build our playground in the backyard. He worked so hard! All day long!

Here’s the finished product with a couple of guests to enjoy it with . . .

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My favorite photo from the orchard . . .

. . . gets its own post.

We weren't able to identify this guy, but we think he looks most like a hopper or a cricket of some kind.  Any guesses?

We weren't able to identify this guy, but we think he looks most like a hopper or a cricket of some kind. Any guesses?

There’s a lot more detail in the full size photo, enough to make it a beautiful and clear desktop image on my  newish iMac.  I’m still learning about posting (and taking) photos.  Isn’t this guy cool?  If you haven’t seen the television series Insectia featuring Georges Brossard, I highly recommend it.  Especially when viewed with little children.

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Life-giving Mustard Seed Blessing

This morning we dropped Sid off at the airport, so that he could catch a plane to Texas for a tattoo convention.  On our way home Jonny, Aveline, June and I stopped off at one of our favorite places Cream Pan, a Japanese bakery in Tustin.  There were four pretty Asian women together at a table behind us and at one point I overheard one woman explaining to her friend beside her, how she had nursed her little babies in the night, that they slept beside her and she would barely wake up to roll over and nurse them!  I couldn’t help myself, I turned around and apologized for overhearing, then I said, “That’s exactly what I’ve done with all of my babies!”  She went on to tell me that her friend hasn’t been getting any sleep since she’s been waking up so often to get out of bed to go to the baby’s room to nurse him back to sleep.  She went on to describe her family’s “family bed” which was comprised of two king-size beds pushed together, I told her I dream of that much sleeping space for us!  In their bed(s), she and her husband and their three children had all shared sleep.  Later, she said, her children all together shared one of the beds in another room.  She told me about their unusually close relationships to one another, now that they are older, and how she feels that her children fight with each other less often than other siblings she knows.  She said, “It’s an investment, it’s the whole Dr. Sears thing.”  I said that that’s the way I see it and that I am shooting for quality relationships like the ones she is now enjoying with her children, and her children are enjoying with one another.  She told me “Good job, keep going, it’ll be wonderful, you’ll see.”  Sweet!

 

We came home and I started our homeschooling day by reading a spirit blessing from a handy little pamphlet entitled Daily Spirit Blessings; With the Blessings of Your Father and the Names of God by Arthur Burk and Sylvia Gunter.  Here’s the one we read:

 

Day 3 – I bless you with life-giving relationships.

Spirit, your Father designed you to receive life-giving and be spiritually life-giving.  He will bring you people who will cause you to leap for joy.  I bless you with people who minister to you, spirit.  I bless you with divine appointments where God connects you for a moment or an hour with mighty men and women of God.  I bless you with drawing life-giving strength from their spirits.  I bless you with God bringing joyful people, with companionship with those who know the joy of the Lord.  I bless you with being mutually life-giving.  I bless you in the name of the Ultimate Life-giver.

 

For me, my experience with the mother at Cream Pan was an encounter with a life-giving spirit!  I had left there feeling uplifted, validated and joyful to go forward with my philosophy and convictions when I wasn’t especially needing it, and definitely not looking for it.  This woman was an unexpected source, too!  She was strikingly beautiful and glamorous, she wore impeccable makeup and stylish clothing.  I thanked God for that encounter and then came home to be surprised and blessed by this blessing I would pray for my children’s spirits.  It confirmed the gift of my encounter, in my heart, as a true gift from God.  He knows I’ve been trying to notice them more, so He gave me a freebie today!  

 

After I read the blessing, I explained to Jonny and Aveline (and June, as she scribbled and showed me her drawing of “A, A, A, A,” as she called it!) that I felt that blessing was for me too because of the woman I had spoken with at Cream Pan.  Then I went on to our Bible reading for the day from The Golden Children’s Bible.  This is what I read:

 

THE GRAIN OF MUSTARD SEED

He put forth another parable to them, saying:  

“The kingdom of heaven is like a grain of mustard seed, which a man took and sowed in the field.  It is indeed the least of all seeds, but when it is grown it is the greatest among plants, and becomes a tree, so that the birds of the air come and build nests in its branches.” 

I told the kids that I thought that meant that if our lowly little hearts are planted in Jesus, then we can be like the mustard plant that becomes a tree.  That our spirits will become strong and steady as they grow, and will have so much to offer to other people.  And that we will be mutually life-giving to those who are life-giving to us.

 

And I just thought I’d share that.  Thank you for reading : )  

My answers to questions regarding homeschooling

An old friend recently sent me some questions about homeschooling, here is my response:

 

I like these questions, so don’t worry about asking so many!  

 

I started Jonny with a K curriculum when he was 4 1/2.  We spread it out over two years.  This year we’re doing 1st grade work with him and pre-K/K work with Aveline.  I do enjoy it, especially when my head’s in the right place and the house is somewhat in order.  

 

I decided to do it because after raising Jonny attachment-style since his birth I did not want to put him into someone else’s care for so many hours of our lives.  I would miss him so much!  K would have been alright due to the shorter hours, but I didn’t want to send him then, only to bring him home for 1st grade when the hours lengthen.  

 

As far as seeing benefits outweigh the sacrifice, I don’t know because I can’t imagine what my life would be like if Jonny did attend school ( I cannot imagine that it would be any “better” though it might be slightly easier to get the housework done).  I do love that his sister is his BFF and they can play together for so much of the day.  I love that I’m always near when they want or need anything.  I love that our lessons happen through all types of experiences, not just sitting down in a classroom.  I love that we discuss everything that comes into their little minds, that I’m the mediator rather than a teacher or their peers.  I love that we encounter ALL types of people in our weekly activities and that he’s learning to understand and socialize with all those types.  I love that we can go on vacations and take school with us and/or incorporate the places we visit into lessons.  I hope to later on enjoy the same type of amazing relationships I see homeschool parents share with their teenage children, with my own.  I love that even though Jonny’s reading is not up to par with typical 1st graders he doesn’t have to feel bad about it or inferior, I can explain to him that his brain is not ready to make certain connections and I can assure him, based on my minimal, yet reliable research, that it will click, and it will not be too late and we’ll move at his pace until then.  I love that when he shows interest in something, it can be elaborated on on the spot so that his intellectual curiosity is nurtured.  And that we can take it as far as his mind wants to.  I love that he can participate in classes during the week with his homeschooled cousins, one of which is taught by his qualified grandmother!

 

That said, it is very much work.  It is challenging on every level imaginable and some levels that I never imagined!  The littler children do make it trickier, and if Jonny was away some of the time, I could really focus on those little tricky ones and nurture our attachments.  For these reasons I am actively looking for options.  I am praying that the lastest one works out, it’s a charter school (free!) and they offer two full classroom days per week for the enrichment courses, taught by dynamic teachers.  The other three days of the week the parent teaches math and english at home.  This sounds just like what I’ve always wanted, but I’ll have to wait and see if the location is near enough, the curriculum suitable, etc.

 

So, I hope that helps.  And I would like to add that someone else’s choice might be just right for their family, but that doesn’t mean, necessarily, that it’s right for you.  And the Lord has all of these children in His hand and His plans for them will be carried out if we are faithful to OUR OWN calling and the choices we make from there.

Please read my comment, too.